"Relationship anarchist" trying to find similar
It often seems a lot more I try to spell it out what I'm seeking out, the further I get from using it because I don't think with regard to relationship "categories. " Seems like this should en d up being so, so really easy. If I just like you and you enjoy me, isn't that up to scratch? But there are a great number of preconceptions.
It's definitely not about "romantic" or maybe "platonic. " It's pertaining to being real jointly immediately, whether about sex or anything, just because that is ideally suited for and because we loveanother. It may not be about "long-term" or maybe "short-term. " People definitely will stay together exactly given that they wish, get rid of and no fewer, so let's just see how are you affected instead of seeking to make it everlasting or impermanent. It may not be about dominance or possibly submission. It's about everyone of us stepping outside of our own solutions and finding ways for anyone to get what we should want/need with no need to control some (I like interested in "win-win" situations). It may not be about "just" good friends or "more than" associates. It's about relating jointly based on some of our actual desires and needs, and not dependant on our positions upon some silly hierarchical scale. My friends are necessary to me, regardless of gender and no matter whether there's a sexual aspect to relationship. Period. There is absolutely no "just" or "more than" concerning this. I feel which friendship is an improvement in itself, no matter whether sex is that's involved, so the standard phrases about "friends utilizing benefits, " "friends primary, " etc. undoubtedly are a bit redundant. They're really just euphemisms avoiding mentioning sex. Seriously, I think all correspondence is relating--and thus a relationship--not mainly the communication that fits into several box, type, type, or whatever! Was I seeking a fabulous "serious" relationship? Very well, that depends... In the event "serious" means special, then no. Even so, if it means dependant on honesty, actually giving a fabulous damn about another, respect, etc., subsequently hell yes. Overall flexibility and caring can come to be compatible, you learn.: )
I'm in music (especially techno, jazz, overseas, and good old-fashioned pebble and "alternative" from back when that meant something), sci-fi (not necessarily the normal TV fare--I are invariably a book junkie), cats and kittens & other animals (I once was the main humanoid recommend forcats), comparison philosophy (I'm some sort of Gnostic Agnostic Panvitalist by means of very Zenarchist/anarchist leanings of which occasionally cause people to fall over), language/linguistics (I helpful to know just enough Portuguese for getting me in a tough time, still know enough English for getting me in substantial trouble, and enough Silence to recognise that words slice the earth up into categories, but they really don't always cut it all for effective communication), at the ready with friends (I buy quality rather compared with quantity), culture (We continue to exist a planet--not just within a country), traveling/exploring (indoors, outdoor, underdoors), geek material (yeah, yeah, I've truly "got root, " but it may not be got me, When i promise), and lots of other things. I'm not naturally a serious individual, but I implement listen and imply what I suggest. My sense about humor is multi-colored as well as multi-tentacled.
I was neither the cal . king, the prince, nor the knight in shining armor. I'm the criminal jester who got tired with the entire monarchy and even left to steer a quiet your life with some innovative experiences thrown inside. I firmly presume there's actually a positive change between chivalry plus real respect, and I put into practice the latter rather than the former. There's not any hidden agenda in this article, no hoops whereby we must soar. I'll hold the doorway for you because I make sure you help people, and explain the truth simply because honesty just makes things a whole lot simpler, not because either would be the "proper" next part of a pre-programmed courtship practice. I would like the same honesty with others.
I was neither Mr. Right who might deny you other people who is also right for you simply because your partner is not all of us, nor Mr. Right-Now who expects someone to sever your caring through your sexuality and become merely a receptacle. I'm an authentic, honest, affectionate, empathic, hybrid polyamorous in addition to quirkyalone (able to make sure you love many and be aware that people aren't premises, and willing to settle single unless/until When i connect deeply by using someone(s)), generally mellow in addition to sometimes quiet hippie-oid mutant seeking women kindred spirit with whom to share a little life, laughter, and love that is certainly about honesty and respect as an alternative to jealousy. Let's share interests and discover what happens!
I was not professional. The job is. My business is a person, instead of my job. You will discover aspects of my job i find interesting, but I legitimately have mixed feelings around the county government which is why I work, without real faith around government or authority on the whole. My view of ethics is very simple: We're all in this particular together, so anything I truly do for or so that you can someone else might effect everyone, as well as me. Therefore, I may as well try to support people whenever I often and not screw the earth up any around it is, plainly can help the item. I frankly don't believe in money except to be a big stupid shell game we are all forced to participate in to varying levels.
All the multiple-choice "factory specification" stuff is utterly secondary to me personally. I don't care what kind of money your wallet can make, how tall/short ones ruler is, the amount of your bathroom machine weighs, whether your television seems as if a supermodel, where by your resume gets results, when your birth certificate was given birth to, or whether any degrees finished university (The entire Earth will be your school, and I respect wisdom in excess of credentials). I do care you be a realistic, caring, affectionate, resourceful, self-aware, evolving, and self-acceptingthat dares to survive, love, and feel since you will without needing to step on other individuals. If you often sense that a color with not a name, you're interested in learning the world all around you, you think/feel far, your path veers journey main stream through conscious choice, and love without envy, we'll probably have a lot to start through. Appearance-wise, I find I'm most interested in women who just appear like their natural selves and do not wear makeup as well as shave.
As for my personal "factory specifications, inch I'm lbs (in frequent earth gravity), x'x", having x arms, x legs, and x scalp containing long brown/gray wild hair, x hazel little brown eyes (semi-functional), x goatee/mustache attire, and x brain (usually at the very least mostly functional). When i physiy cannot get, so I apply public transportation together with my legs.
I'm x-friendly. I don't light up (though I'm not militant concerning this if others do). I'd better state that traditional authoritarian religion and I truly do not mix clearly at all. Even so, I am interested in some forms for conscious paganism and even gnosticism, as well of the same quality old stuffy atheism as well as rationalism. So... I don't complete a particularly good anything-ist in this particular department. Like Socrates, When i question every darned thing, even myself personally. I hope that for anyone who is in an pre-existing marriage or various other commitment, it is frequently truly open or you could have an exit strategy. While I don't believe in marriage intended for myself, I was not here so that you can break anyone's heart and soul.
If you resonate with the vast majority of what I've said here therefore you don't find on your own screaming "Noooo, definitely not THAT! , inch let's talk!: )